Include me In Your Life

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I facilitated a BEDTalk with a couple
Was more intimacy created?
You be the judge. 

The Container
2 minutes of eye gazing
4 minutes of withholds/each way
4 minutes of desire pulling/each way


 

WITHHOLDS

J: What are you withholding from me?

L: Shit I’m scared of you. Breaking up again, or um, well we aren’t together yet…
Well you know, just really scared of being rejected. 

J: What are you withholding from me?

L: I fear that you are going some place. I cannot follow you in your mind. Going down a rabbit hole, that I am just not willing to follow you into. 

J: What else are you withholding from me?

L: That I love you crazy.

J: What are you withholding from me?

L: I worry that this is not going to work out

J: What are you withholding from me?

L: That I am angry about analyzing where we go, how we should go, and what it should look like

J: What are you withholding from me?

L: I’m afraid that I’m not enough. That I’ll never be enough.

J: What are you withholding from me?

TIMER RINGS

L: What are you withholding from me?

J: I’m withholding the fact of how much I withhold from you

L: What are you withholding from me?

J: I want to have babies. I want to make babies. And I want to move somewhere where it is popular to have babies. And to start my revolutionary family.

L: What else are you withholding?

J: I withhold how embarrassed I am from withholding from you all the time. I withhold my belly. Very tight

L: What are you withholding from me?

J: I judge you as…Well, I judge you for many things. I withhold that I lost trust in you about the potential I thought you would have

L: What are you withholding from me?

J: I withhold the fact that I’m thinking that you want to write a book because you want to be the cool writers you read about, but not because it’s your essence.

L: What are you withholding from me?

J: I am blaming you for not introducing me to your friends and not standing behind me and supporting me when I’m scared to meet your friends.

L: What are you withholding from me?

J: I don’t like the way you are asking this question right now. Doing that nod and the thing with your eyes.

L: What are you withholding from me?

J: I would like you to quit smoking and do tantra with me. Or alone. With me. Both

L: What are you withholding from me?

J: I want to have amazing sex. Every day. Several times. And I want it to be amazing. Every time. Every. Fucking. Time

L: What are you withholding from me?

J: I judge you as immature.

L: What are you withholding from me?

J: I judge you as inexperienced.

L: What are you withholding from me?

J: I would like you to make more experiences.

L: What are you withholding from me?

J: Im afraid this relationship is not going to work

L: What are you withholding from me?

J: I think that you and me ..We put a lot of effort into making this work. But none of us knows where we are going. And I feel like I need to control this and know where we are going

L: What are you withholding from me?

J: I judge you for living in social contract world and doing normal things though you hate doing them which makes you normal. 

TIMER RINGS


DESIRES

J: What do you want?

L: I want to leave. I want to quit this. I want to not love you

J: What do you want?

L: I would like you to stop putting pressure on me.

J: What do you want?

L: I would like to be the way that I am around you and not something better or higher

J: What do you want?

L: I want you to love me for the way that I am

J: What do you want?

L: I would like us to separate if thats possible

J: What do you want?

L: I want to feel good around you

J: What do you want?

L: I want you to support me

J: What do you want?

L: I want to stay here for awhile

J: What do you want?

TIMER RINGS

L: What do you want?

J: I would like you to stay. I want you to stay here

L: What do you want?

J: I want you to feel good. And not hurt.

L: What do you want?

J: I want you to find a way how to handle my visions, and wishes, and withholdings creatively

L: No pressure though hahah

(Laughter)

L: What do you want?

J: I want you not to feel pressure!

L: What do you want?

J: I want you to adore me to the end of my life. Adoration is very important

J: I want you to support me in whatever I do

L: What do you want?

J: I want you to love me the way that I am. With all the pressures, judgements, visions, and bullshit.

L: What do you want?

J: I want you to change your lifestyle

L: What do you want?

J: I want you to show yourself to me, the way you are really. Oh And I want you to let me judge you.

L: What do you want?

J: I want us to laugh about our thoughts. And have no judgement around each other having thoughts and feelings.

L: What do you want?

J: I want you to not take me seriously

L: What do you want?

J: I want you to give me what I want

L: What do you want?

J: I want you to the core, the pole around my life in which I can spin and feel safe

L: What do you want?

J: I want you to hold space for me at all times, at all of my phases

L: What do you want?

J: I want you to look me in the eyes and connect with me during sex

L: What do you want?

J: I want you to work on your body, your energy body, and work on your energy levels

L: What do you want?

J: I want you to do tantra retreats

L: What do you want?

J: I want you to be interested in what I’m thinking and what I’m feeling and be curious and ask me

L: What do you want?

J: I want you to share your thoughts and feelings, moment by moment, whether irrational or rational. Just random blurbs

L: What do you want?

J: I want you to talk more

L: What do you want?

J: I want you to include me in your life.